[Kevin]

Amanda,

My advice is that you need to make the best of your situation. If you don't like your sorority -- and I mean your WHOLE SORORITY, not just your chapter, fine, drop. Just be sure that 20 years from now you won't be wishing that you could join the alumnae organization, etc.

Otherwise, what the hell good does it do you to feel like you were denied what you wanted? It turns out that someone did give you a bid and you accepted. Why not work to make your house better than the one that passed you over?

I helped to found my chapter. We started with nothing. I have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who joins something, has a fairly good experience and then decides it's not all they wanted. Well heck, now you're in a position to either quit or make it all you wanted it to be.

Those are really the two choices as I see them. Feeling dejected and such doesn't accomplish anything though.