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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
I have a question for everyone in relation to the whole "moving in" issue. What about when your s.o. says "I will be ready to live with you at such and such a point but I don't know if I will be ready to be engaged yet"..........How would you/have you dealt with this? Especially because I think many people think that getting engaged=instantly married and all the responsibilities that come with that (ie. "accidental" pregnancies, bills, etc). Just curio
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My now husband tried to say that to me. We actually considered me moving upto where I now currently live and just "live together"... But neither of us were reared to think like that by our parents.
I choose to get married and not to "shack up"/ "live in sin" with my now husband for any reason because I basically felt I was too old for that sort of thing and I wanted to be married to my husband. That is the way my life goes...
The issue is, who wants to be married? If any person in the couple wants marriage as the penultimate of the relationship, then something has to give. How long will it take to be married? When? What happens afterward? This questions are I think are most relevant when one person absolutely does not want to be married currently...
So, it is a matter of values... A matter of either pee or get off the pot...