Ah, explained a lot right ther J!
First Time Frosh, away from home, good in H S and off to College to find, damn, it is tuff. Not Mom and Dad to push you to do good. You are on your own.
But, the one thing going for each New Greek Individual, is someone in Your Chapter to sit and just talk with! Let your feelings out and ask for help.
It does get easier!
It does get better!
A plus is, You will Grow as an Individual from Experience!