What a great thread! I became frustrated with a lot of the pettiness that went on in my chapter with some of the younger girls. It was sad to see at times that not everyone got along even though they "were sisters" and I would find myself regretting getting involved. I realized though that we are not going to get along with everyone at all times and this is just a life lesson. There are sisters who will love you no matter what and sisters no matter what you do, you just don't have anything in common and you are not going to get along. THIS IS OKAY!!!!! It's not a reason to drop the sorority. I get sad sometimes too because some sisters I was extremely close with I never hear from at all anymore due to changes I guess in our life circumstances, and I never thought as an undergrad that it would be like that either. But again, I've learned this is life circumstances and nothing to do with the sorority. I am glad that I didn't give up DPhiE after college because I feel that I am becoming more actively involved now as an alumna. It is so hard to make friends-especially FEMALE friends-after college and in a new city and I have gotten to meet a lot of great women by keeping involved in the sorority. It is so great to go back too and have girls that are 10 years younger then me who I have never met know who I am. I remember a couple of years ago I had a random person pop up on AOL instant message. She said "Hi Winney the Pooh". It was an undergrad who had gotten my screen name and added me to her buddy list. It is the little things like this that make me glad I haven't turned my back on my organization. To all of the girls who are considering dropping out, I encourage you to take a step back if it gets tough. The bad times will blow over and you will always have fond memories to look back on. If not, try to keep in mind that there are so many women out there who have had negative experiences as undergrads but get back involved as alumnae and are so proud that they did. Everyone I think goes through these feelings at one point or another in their sorority experience. Like anything else in life, chapters and their members are NOT perfect and everyday is a learning experience. I am looking forward to hearing what others have to say about this topic
