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I thank all of you for the responses. They have really given me a lot to think about and different perspective. I am doing okay with this all. Don't get me wrong, the pain is still there, but I have been able to keep myself pretty busy with stuff. He and I talk daily. I don't know if we are going to work this out or not.
I understand that not all men are sorry for what they have done, but I truly believe he is. Does this mean I trust him...not right now. Can I rebuild that trust? I don't know. I still love him but I don't want to second guess someone I am with all the time.
Its a lot to think about. A lot to take in. And way too much to decide overnight. I am glad we talk and right now that is what I want...I want to see if we can rebuild a friendship. I want to see if we can talk like we used to and be open with one another. If we can, but still don't trust one another, then at least we have rebuilt a friendship (I truly value friendships, even with my ex's...I keep in touch with all my ex's b/c I think its stupid to be so close with someone and then to cut them out of your life). If the friendship works, then we'll see about the rest. I'll try to keep ya posted.
And yes...a long distance relationship is a relationship if the two people work at it. Obviously ours hit rock bottom, but we had a year of long distance before this crap started and it was good...hard but good. We were together for about 5 or 6 months before we ever started the long distance stuff, so we did have a foundation. We talked a lot and never went long times without seeing one another (until we got 8 hours apart and things went downhill). Despite this outcome, I do think it can work if the two people are commited. But it is work and both have to be willing to make the same sacrifices.
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