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Originally posted by BabyP
I hate to say this, but do you really consider this a real relationship? most of the time you were "together" you were living hours apart. I would understand if you were together first for at least a couple of months then he moved. Whoa this is a friend he messed around with....good luck,you wil end up being suspicious of all his female friends now....... At least he is trying to make amends. I wonder how did you find out? did he confess? why did you confront the "other" woman?
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so spending hours pouring your heart out on the phone doesn't constitute a "real" relationship? so making huge sacrifices of time and energy to drive 8 hours/pay too much for plane tickets/ spend all night on a greyhound so that you can see each other for a few precious days does not constitute a "real" relationship? How can you even pretend that simply because a relationship is long-distance for a period of time, it is not "real"? I can think of plenty of relationships that happen between two people living on the same campus, same dorm, even the same hall that are less "real" than half a dozen long-distance relationships I know of. My fiance and I were long distance for three semesters and we have better communication and trust than most of my friends whose boyfriends go to school 15 minutes away. Long-distance relationships are so unique in that they involve sacrificing partying with your friends because tonight's a "phone date" night. Instead of relying on sex to keep your relationship going, you have to rely on hours on the phone a night sharing your family, your goals, and your daily joys. Please don't ever presume that a relationship isn't "real" because people have to be apart. Would you say the same thing about a long-distance marriage?