[sweetie adpi]

i'm having a hard time here understanding some of the places that you're coming from asu. i do understand and value the efforts that you've made so that communication between sisters is possible and regular between the those that are bidding leading up to the end of the auction. this could truly help in some of the situations that have been described here.

my issue is that you see yourself as a "victim" of another sister who probably saw the pin when the auction started, stuck it in my ebay, and didn't pay attention to it until the very end when she saw that she would be able to still bid within her limit, and then did so. not everyone on ebay takes the time or HAS that amount of time to search the internet for ebay adpi safe names, or keep up to date on them. i know i don't bid on something until the last minute, so you're not going to see me on there to email me til the very end, because i don't want to drive up the price for five days. and i'm probably not paying attention to who's bidding either, because i don't check in until the end. i don't have the time to follow ebay that much. and as i've stated before, that IS, whether or not everyone likes it, one of the ways ebay works. sniping happens. this is ebay, not a real auction. these bidder's actions, however, aren't necessarily stemming from a malicious attitude of disrespect. and you can still email the bidder who won to see if you can convince them to let you buy it from them if you have such an emotional attachment to it. chances are if she would have bowed out, had she known of your earlier intent, she'd let you buy it off of her afterwards as well.