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Jamie, I totally agree with you. I think we should always respect one another...its in our open motto. But I also don't think there is going to be a perfect way to create guidelines for these situations (but I would love it if someone proved me wrong).
This is a tough area for several reasons. One, it is just hard to determine who wants it more. Of course, as many have said communication helps and many times it can be worked out, but not always. Also, while the list is a fabulous tool, everyone isn't on it and it doesn't begin to include family and friends of ADPis who buy items as gifts. I know my boyfriend has looked at things for me and I would feel bad if I found out he out bid a sister at the last minute or something, but he wouldn't have a clue what he'd done.
Also, while I don't mean to sound like we should make time to respect our sisters...some people just don't have the time to find out if another bidder is a sister and what the reason is or whatever. I know, it only takes a minute and many of you may want to argue this point, but sometimes things get hectic.
I would not love it if a sister outbid me at the last minute, but I would understand. She just wanted the item too and may not have known about the safe list or for whatever reason bid on the item anyway. I hate to hear that this causes tension among sisters, when she may not have even realized what she was doing...there are tons of sisters who don't check PO or GC and may not think it is wrong to bid against a sister. After all, that is the point of an auction.
Sorry, just wanted to go along with what Jamie said. I do agree with all the posts on communication and I hope some helpful guidelines are created, I guess I just wanted to remind sisters to try and give someone the benefit of the doubt if it does happen.
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