Space isn't just for the guys, now....
You have to learn when space is needed by either party in the relationship. If my wife has had a bad day at work or with the kids...I have learned (the hard way) to keep my distance from her for at least an hour for her to decompress and move on.
Space is important, but, the most important thing is respect - even after marriage, after time, respect is the most important component in a marriage. You have to be able to (still) respect differences in opinion, politics, friends, etc....and meet in the middle.
We get along well, but that doesn't mean we've had our moments. But those moments only make us stronger - we complement each others weaknesses and strengths in ways that are almost eerie. I guess opposites do attract.
Bottom line, if you can't find more positives than negatives or even questionables in a relationship, get out. Learn each others needs and wants, and strive to help them reach their goals and your goals - teamwork makes relationships grow.
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