[honeychile]

Maybe we should think about this:

Eugenia wants a special type of pin, and has $300 to spend on it.
Sophronia wants a different type of pin, but likes ALL pins, and she has $800 to spend on pins.

Eugenia sees "her" pin on ebay, and asks Sophronia to let her win the bid. But! The bid goes over $300, Eugenia can't afford it, Sophronia thinks Eugenia is going to snipe for it, and it ends up in the hands of a collector. But!

If Eugenia would tell Sophronia that she wants the pin, but can only go up to $300. The bid goes over $300, so Sophronia now knows that Eugenia won't be bidding any more, so SHE can now bid on it in good conscience.

The secret is (surprise!) Communication! If there is a special type of pin that you want, you need to let people know WHAT you want, and HOW MUCH you're willing to spend. Maybe we need to develop a wishlist?

Anyhow, that's 1¢ out of my 2¢ - but I plan to add more!!