i just went through rush on the sister side for the first time and had very mixed feelings. first, i hate to tell you but the nervousness doesn't go away after initiation. now you have the nervousness of "will the girl i rush today like us?" "will she come back?". if she does come back, you can never really tell if she's coming back because she loves your house or if she's just coming back to fill up her schedule. if she doesn't come back, you wonder if it's something you did. during rush, we were told to make every girl want to be in our sorority and make every girl fall in love with us from the first day to pref... even if you are not interested in her. it sucks to meet a girl who you know likes you more and more with every sister she meets but you know the second she walks out the door she'll probably be dropped because of some physical inperfection. in short, it can be deceptive and often superficial. personally, i now question every nice thing that was said to me during rush because i will never know if it was because they really liked me or they just wanted me to like them. i also had a few friends rush this year (one was a legacy at my house) and they were all dropped. then of course, they get upset and ask you why your house dropped them but in reality, no one really wants to know the answer to that question. maybe all of this is just true because i go to a large school with a competitive greek system with 1100-1300 pnms each year but i think that other people who go to large greek schools will agree with what i'm saying. on the up side, i became SO much closer with my sisters during rush in a way that surpasses sisterhood activities or socials or anything like that. we came out with quota + of absolutely amazing girls. our girls have the total package that we were looking for. however, i didn't really enjoy rush. i feel that it was too competitive, but i guess it was just a means to an end. good luck with your recruitment though. i'm sure that your chapter will work hard and get amazing girls!
