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Originally posted by Firehouse
In the minds of rushees, when formal rush is over, it's ALL over. Often, sororities forced to open rush afterward lack confidence to be effective and are stigmitized as being not good enough.
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this i agree with...almost 100%! i completely disagree that some groups lack confidence with the cob process. for some smaller chapters, they are MUCH better at the relaxed and less fake process known as COB. i completly agree with the rest of this statement. some rushees would rather not be greek at all than consider going through cob. there are definately people (greek and nongreek) on campus that will look down on the chapter or two that have to cob...which only makes PNMs want to be a part of that chapter less.
it is kind of annoying because in reality, there is probably nothing bad about the chapters who need to cob. it is hard to break out of a cycle, especially if your campus is steeped in traditions and if the repuations continue...even years after they have changed.
my biggest pet peeve during this time of recruitment threads occurs when suzie pnm writes that she didn't get asked back to any houses she wanted, so she dropped out. we all are trying to be supportive and say, "oh honey, give cob a try" when realistically, the chapters that invited her back....are the ones who will be cobing....and are the ones she felt like it would be better to drop out of recruitment than to even go to their parties. do you think she is really going to go to cob? no...i hate that we pretend she will! (sorry this just makes me aggravated)