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Originally posted by Bamboozled
Kimmie's comments sparked another question:
Do you think that as black men and women we are required more than our white peers to appear "personable"? If Becky and I decline to go have a beer after work the same number of times, are our "people skills" judged differently? I believe so. All of a sudden I'm disagreeable and not a team player. On the other hand, Becky is probably just busy or has a family to tend to.
I think that as black people, especially black women, we are judged unfairly from the door. We're expected to have attitudes and to be confrontational. We go in having to prove otherwise. It's tiring. I don't want to be "on" all the time and when I'm at work, I have to be. I don't want to feel obligated to spend time with my co-workers outside of work if I don't want to, but unfortunately, it's a bullet we all have to bite. Sometimes I feel like I should just put on my tapping shoes and dance a jig and maybe everyone will be happy.
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Sorry, Soror, I don't see you putting on tapping shoes.
But I would agree with that. I'm very mellow personally, and sometimes I feel like I have to be on. It's tiresome.