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Originally posted by Steeltrap
Again, I love that this side of GC can pretty much have civil, respectful discussions.
One thing came to mind: In Veronica Chambers' Having it All? Black Woman and Success, one of the women interviewed talked about creating what she called a "corporate space," something that allowed you to be civil while keeping a sense of privacy.
Her point was that if you don't let people in at least a little bit, they will make assumptions about you. I'll post more about this tomorrow. I don't have the book with me at the desk.
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Please do post more, because people do make assumptions about me and it gets on my nerves. I am one of the nicest most compassionate people that I know, yet people think that I'm mean and cold.
I let people in a little bit, but my little bit is not always enough for them. They always want more, and I don't have any more to give. I hate to hear people say "oh, don't be like that." Don't be like what? Because I don't desire to go out with you EVERY WEEK or because I don't invite you to lunch with me and my FRIENDS or because I didn't tell you about something personal in my life? Don't be like what? Cuz I'm not going to be phony EVER. It's like no one wants to stay in the little box marked "COWORKER," everyone wants to move into the"FRIENDS" box or the "ASSOCIATE" box. Why we can't just be coworkers? Why can't we go to lunch once in a while. Why can't we
become friends if that is what is meant to be. It doesn't have to be forced.
*sigh* I guess I'm a private person. A lot of people think that I'm a social butterfly, and I can be, but really, I like to keep to myself. When people try to invade my space (physically and mentally) I guess I become defensive. I think I have issues.