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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
So, make sure you have similar financial values and characteristics... What you can put up with and what you cannot deal with... That goes further than LOVE can take you...
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This is one of the most, if not THE most, important things to know about relationships. I've seen so many couples break up over money issues, and that doesn't mean you're being shallow or materialistic.
I cringe to think what would have happened if I had married the first Mr. 33. He would do things like buying me a stuffed animal, card and taking me out to eat and then turn around and ask me to borrow $10 because he needed a haircut and was broke. His family spent like crazy - 6 TVs, 2 VCRs (this is back when VCRs cost like $2000) but wouldn't give him extra money for school. The whole thing was soooooo messed up, compared to how I was raised.
I think the only time you can say someone is "supporting" someone else in a relationship is when one partner does absolutely nothing. The wife staying at home taking care of the kids is one thing - I consider that a reciprocal arrangement. The wife who doesn't have a job but has a full-time housekeeper and nanny and doesn't do anything but shop is something else again.