How was your wedding?
It was pretty good... There were some minor problems. The groomsmen and I did not get along. Some of them tried to talk my husband out of going through with it that day. They were all drunk. One of them (in college) hit on my 13 year-old sister. My matron-of-honor bounced a check she wrote me. She was so embarrassed that she didn't show up... But, once I told off her (over the phone when I realized she wasn't showing) and every last groomsman, the wedding went beautifully.
What was involved? Brief details...
We had the church decorated with candles, cream tulle, and christmas trees with white lights.
The 10 bridesmaids wore black satin dresses and carried red roses.
I wore a cream and cafe au lait dress by Maggie Sottero and carried red roses. My something blue was my Sapphire pointed badge.
My sorority sisters drove in from Mississippi and Michigan to be at the wedding.
We had over 200 people at the wedding.
My cake was custom designed (at no additional cost) to match my wedding dress. My husband had an amaretto cheesecake for his groom's cake.
Did you do anything special? How was your wedding special to you? If at all?
Well, it would have been more special to me if my sisters had sang the traditional ZTA songs like they do at the other weddings. But, they told me afterwards that since the reception was at a church, they felt odd about breaking into sorority song.
My husband saw me before the wedding. When my matron-of-honor didn't show up, we both had to go and finish the decorating she volunteered to take care of. I actually LOVE the fact that we had that time together to clear our heads and just enjoy the day.
How crazy did your folks drive you?
It was not my folks as it was my paternal grandmother. I do not speak to my bio. father. Yet, she forced me to invite him. He told everyone I never sent either of the 2 invites... He refused to show up because his name was not on the invitation as my parent. So, to show her contempt, she skipped the wedding photos. We had the photographer chase her down at the reception so that we could have at least one picture... SHE LITERALLY HAS AN ANGRY LOOK ON HER FACE in the photo.
Overall, how much did your wedding cost? Who finally paid for it?
My wedding costs ended up at $17,000. That included a sit down buffet with service for over 200 as well. My maternal grandparents that raised me paid for most of it. My mom and step-dad also helped.
If I had it to do over, I would have invited less people. I was forced to invite a lot because of both of our families' social status. I also would not have had some of the bridesmaids I chose. And, I would have been less concerned with having every detail looking just perfect for guests. I would have focused on making myself happy.
