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Originally posted by cutiepatootie
Do the human thing ......call her and say hey were not getting back together, make it clear, but tell her she needs to get on with her life and stop hoping for something that will never happen. Tell her you are concerned for her health and tell her maybe she needs t o get some help for it but to try and move on for her sake.
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I'd agree with you if missexcashmoney was emotionally stable. I suspect if he were to do that, she'd spin it to her advantage with her family and friends. Her friends called to give him a guilt trip and they succeeded.
Cashmoney had every right to walk away when he was getting treated the way he was. When you marry you don't just marry the person. You marry the immediate family. Why should he continue to expose himself to such a toxic environment?. He's not the one who decided to play games in the relationship. She gambled and she lost. It's that simple.
As for her mother's influence, she was raised in a toxic situation. It's up to her whether she chooses to follow in mama's footsteps or not. It's unfortunate that she's lost her job after the breakup but it's not his fault. Even if they were to move to the opposite coast together the problems would still be there. He can't change her and any ultimatums he'd demand would be pointless. They would be a temporary fix to a larger problem. Unless she wants to get help for herself no one is going to do it for her. I agree with whoever said that her friends will be there for her.
Breakups suck no doubt about that. You can't rush the healing process. In a world of instant everything, it's one of the few things that has to run its course. If you start dating anyone now it would be a rebound relationship.
Cashmoney be glad the only thing you have to deal with is the loss of the engagement ring. It took have been worse. Take care of yourself. Avoid all contact with her. Get her out of your system before you start dating again.