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Originally posted by ZTAngel
Are you absolutely, positively 100% convinced that you don't ever want to get back with her again?
Do you think that this is something that, in time, you guys can get past and maybe work out?
I guess it's maybe because I know her and I know she's a really great person. Also, she seems to have changed you for the better.
If you are positive that you want nothing to do with her ever again, then don't call her. But, if you still do love her and still hope that maybe things could work out, then I think you should call her.
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I don't know. Maybe I look at things differently. I don't know if I could fully get past the fact that she vaules her mother's advice more than she cares about the two of us. And the fact that she had put her family before me when we were supposed to be getting married. The way I see it, if you're married to someone then that person IS your new family. You should put your husband/wife above your other family. If you don't, then your marriage isnt going to work in the long run. Yes, she was good for me and I was good for her. The problem came when her mother got caught up in the mix and started yapping shit off in her ear. Now there were things I could have dealt with differently. I look back and realize I shouldn't have told her that her mother was selfish, unhappy bitch. I'd probably be pissed if she would have said that about my mother....but if it were true I wouldn't hold it against her. The fact that she hasnt called me at all herself proves to me that she thinks she didnt do anything wrong and that, in her words, the problem was me. I mean, I'd probably feel different about it all if she called me and told me that she messed up and that she was sorry for being the way she was and that from now on she'll put me first and not listen to her mother when it comes to our relationship.....but I don't forsee that coming out of her mouth. I've given thought to the whole pre-marital counseling thing but realized thats too gay. Besides, I don't know how she'd react to me suggesting something like that. She'd probably tell me I'm crazy.
Now I'm even more confused than I was before I started this thread.
