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Originally posted by KappaKittyCat
The last time I was dumped, it took me three weeks of bawling, insomnia, and not eating before I was able to function again, and it it was a good two years before I realized that we weren't ever going to get back together.
The XBF didn't help matters because he insisted on calling and staying around to "make sure I was okay." The fact that he kept coming around was, to me, a sign that he still loved me and was having second thoughts about dumping me. I couldn't move on because he was still in my world.
So if you're really serious about the breakup, don't call her. Don't talk to her friends. Make it final. It hurts her more now, but will be better in the long run. I know you're concerned about her health and safety, but she could use that as a tool to keep you close. Trust that her friends aren't going to let her do anything stupid. Stand your ground.
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co-sign! co-sign! co-sign!!! i just went through this. maybe not to the FULLEST extent as what has been described, but i did quit eating and all i did was sleep. i went to the doc the other day b/c i got sick (probably from not eating) and she questioned me on my weight loss (i don't need to lose any weight). my ex did contact me about 3 weeks after we broke up and it really made it all worse. it made me think oh, maybe he wants to get back together. i'm fine now, and i know he cares about me. he has communicated that to me and i know that if i were to need anything i could call him.
don't contact her unless you are serious about being back together with her!!!!!!!!!!!