[KappaKittyCat]

The last time I was dumped, it took me three weeks of bawling, insomnia, and not eating before I was able to function again, and it it was a good two years before I realized that we weren't ever going to get back together.

The XBF didn't help matters because he insisted on calling and staying around to "make sure I was okay." The fact that he kept coming around was, to me, a sign that he still loved me and was having second thoughts about dumping me. I couldn't move on because he was still in my world.

So if you're really serious about the breakup, don't call her. Don't talk to her friends. Make it final. It hurts her more now, but will be better in the long run. I know you're concerned about her health and safety, but she could use that as a tool to keep you close. Trust that her friends aren't going to let her do anything stupid. Stand your ground.