[honeychile]

You've gotten a lot of good advice and a wide range of opinions, adpialumcsuc. The best part YOU can possibly play in this scenario is to be the listener, not the advisor. You will never be able to adivise one way or another without ruining the friendship.

That said, as I've mentioned before, I am a facillitator at a divorce recovery group. After all these years, I'd say that easily 75% of the women (and men) who left their cheating spouses wishes that they had first tried counseling. It's not the end-all cure-all, but it will allow them to vent their feelings in a safe enviroment - and mutually decide whether they should move on together or separately. Maybe your friend should allow her husband to choose a counselor with whom he would feel comfortable?

And of course, she should be checked for every STD imaginable - but tell her to either go to a clinic or pay for it privately. Once your insurance company finds out that you're "at risk", you can be in a lot of troubles.