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Originally posted by adpialumcsuc
Any words of Wisdom? I want to be supportive for her but I am so shocked that all I can say is "Oh my Gosh"
Should she stay and try to make it work or is that not possible?
Can she ever trust him again?
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Everyone is right on the money when they say to support your friend's decisions and not to badmouth her husband.
I hate to bring this up but I'd reccommend that at least she get tested for AIDS and STD's.She has no idea of how many other partners her husband has had besides the one that she knows about. They've been together for eight years. Even if this was just the one, there's no gurantee that protection was used every time.She can just schedule a regular ob/gyn exam and he doesn't have to know so he can add more fuel to the fire of claims that she's to blame for not "trusting".
If he doesn't want to go to couples counseling, she needs to get some counseling for herself so she can't decide what's best for her to do. I know you're her best friend but there's only so much you can do. You are a good friend for being there for her.
Nothing she did warrants the disrespect to her and the vows taken on their wedding day. During the ceremony they do say for better or for worse but no where does it mention anything about infidelity. But isn't Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor's Wife is still a biggie in the ten commandments list? I'm not a bible expert so let me know if I have it wrong.
The saving grace in all of this is that there are no children involved.