adpialumcsuc,
Well i don't know. I am just a boy, but . . .
I am assuming the back story you gave about her Brother moving in is relevant.
I am also assuming that her brother moving in as a permanent house guest for a year was something the husband hated, no matter how nice a face he put it on.
I wager its also something that he was extremely unhappy about and it created an enormous tension in his mind towards her. Its her brother after all not his.
So out of a two year marriage, she willfully created a situation to make him truly unhappy both with his life and her in general.
The only other thing I would wonder is why they got married. Generally, after that amount of time (6 bloody years) a guy isn't going to marry you becaue he adores you, he is going to marry you to keep from losing you.
Thats a crucial difference, one that works on the male psyche in a way women often don't appreciate.
So if he felt pressured to marry her, as guys often do, and then she sprang that idiocy on him ruining a full 50 percent of the time they were married . . . .
Well its small wonder that he hates her a little and feels resentful.
I do agree in a technical and idealisitc way that he should have left her instead of cheating, people do tend to be weak, and cheating is easier.
Also silly men can be just as reluctant to throw away an 8 year investment of time and familiarity.
It really sounds like their relationship lasted much longer than it should have, It outlived its passion and fell into the kind of comfortable famialirity that is the most many people will ever have to aspire towards.
Sad.
She should divorce him and move on, but I can't see that happening without a both a lot more pain and reciminations, as well as many more heart renfind phone calls you will have to listen to as a friend.
Also, has couples counseling become the catch all advice everyone gives their friends when they are afraid to commit to an opinion?
I am minded of the scene in the movie "old School" about that.
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