[ISUKappa]

What is everyone's thoughts on eloping?
I think it depends on the couple. For some, it's the best thing they can do. For others, it's not. I think eloping still needs the same amount of thought between the couple as a traditional wedding and isn't done a la Britney as a spur-of-the-moment thing.

Is it something that should be avoided at all costs?
No, it depends on the couple. Some good friends of ours eloped because she needed to be married for her job (teacher at a Catholic school). Some churches do not recognize a marriage that isn't done in the church, though, so if that's something that's important to the couple, it needs to be kept in mind.

Or do you find it daring and romantic?
It can be. It can also be a cause for disagreement in a couple if one felt pressured to elope. Depends on the couple.

Under what circumstances should a couple elope?
If after some thought and discussion, the couple feels that's the best choice for them, then I'm all for it. It doesn't matter what circumstancesm are as long as they both understand and are in agreement that this is the best thing for them.

Should they still be planning an official ceremony later?
If they want to, sure! But I don't think it's necessary.

How long after?
However long they want.

Best place and way to elope?
Vegas, Caribbean, Europe, Fiji, wherever!

There were definite times in the wedding planning process when I really wanted to toss everything and run to Vegas but I knew I wouldn't be happy with that. I loved my wedding, loved having all the family and friends who were important to me witness that moment in our lives. Someday, though, I would like to do a vow renewal somewhere private, just us two (and maybe kids).