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Originally posted by valkyrie
Yes, and yes. I can't even imagine making a long term relationship work with someone who handles money very differently than I do. Granted, I suck at money, but I just can't deal with a tightwad. No matter what, though, I will always keep my own account on the side, no matter how much or how little is in it.
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The hard part is not letting your S.O. know about it... Once they know about, laws can be enacted...
Another thing to watch out for is letting your S.O. put all items they want in your name... Why? Accountability... Usually, it is big ticket items.
E.g. he wants the Cayenne SUV, and you get it in your name. He pays for it for the next few months or so, then stops--then your credit gets jacked up...
Or she uses your credit card and takes it to a whole 'nother limit that is impossible to pay...
The other thing to think about is when you do actually want something--like paying for a plane ticket home... Some folks go ballistic if you purchase flight tickets to go anywhere. They cannot be knowing how you purchased those tickets and how you got the hook up--'cuz the next thing you know, they'll be asking you for that money source and how you got it...
I'm sorry, it ain't personal, it's about business. And a marriage is business, 'cuz all your assets do get scrambled when folks marry... So you havta treat it like a business decision... With shareholder (or stakeholders) annual meetings and every other item a corporation does...