Thanks,
UCLAblonde! I'm confused, too, so I'm happy to see I'm not the only one.
I think I understand that the gentleman in question went through initiation and then realized that he would not be happy as a member of that chapter. But that doesn't mean that his entire fraternity... worldwide... is bad.
I am surprised that a full fledged member can decide that he doesn't like his fraternity's
chapter and go become a member of an entirely different fraternity. Now he knows the inner workings of two different groups.
I don't really think you can compare it to a marriage that has turned abusive. In this case, the spouse isn't the chapter... but the fraternity. Surely the entire fraternity isn't abusive?
I feel for the guy who finds his chapter isn't a good fit and then is stuck without an active college experience and letters that don't mean anything to him.
Best wishes,
Allmixedup.