I tend not to talk about my relationships, even casual ones, in sexual terms.
One I don't find it a novelty to impress people (the most common reason we men share stories).
Two, there is a double standard and I am not unprepared to protect women from the gossipy consequences.
I do reserve the right to share interesting stories . . . so long as it doesn't invovle anyone current and you have no way of knowing who the lady is.
Ok kind of a long prep for a simple answer:
I never thought of hook-ups that didn't involve going "all the way" to be significant enough to remember or even think about later.
I have since discovered that people, especially women generally look at a hook-up as just kissing or fooling around to some degree minus "going all the way".
I used to think that when people said they were "with" people they meant the complete deal (which caused some misunderstandings) because less than that didn't seem important to me.
However, I have also been told that some girls use "hooking-up" as a kind of way to keep score because they are getting significant attention from a guy without the stereotype of having sex with him. So a girl "hooking-up" a lot shows she is competitive and desirable, the same way a guy would use Actual sexual partners in a score keeping system.
Of course this is only my experiences.
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Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
Merely a question of semantics.
What do you all consider a "hook-up"? I know people who are like, "yeah, i hooked up with him", and all they did was talk and kiss. then, i know others that, for them, "hooking-up" us going all the way.
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