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Originally posted by 33girl
I feel like we're raking the original poster's original fraternity over the coals without knowing both sides of the story.
He never said he was hazed, just that "things happened during pledging." That could mean he saw a brother treat a girl in a way he didn't like...that his grades went in the toilet...that they gave a bid to a gay man and it upset him. Who the heck knows? All we have is his very ambiguous post.
I'm inclined to agree with Steve - if you had doubts, OVER AND OVER AGAIN, that should have been a sign that you shouldn't have initiated. You could have asked to be held over or dropped pledging. That's what a pledge period is FOR - so you and the organization can evaluate each other more deeply than you did in rush before you make that lifetime commitment to the org, and they to you.
I'm sure all of us can find ways that our chapter or our org overall let us down, at one time or another. That doesn't mean we should all quit and join another one.
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We're arguing hypotheticals. I'm saying that in most cases, I would be VERY skeptical, but in some cases it could be justified.
I'm raking a hypothical chapter over the coals. Without knowing anything about his situation, I'm saying that there are situations where formally resigning in my eyes is justified. If it's done in an honorable way and for honorable reasons, I have no problem with it.