This is exactly what I want, but most times I find that a girl(that I'm serious about) isnt willing to commit to me. I was never a player myself(always kidded about it), maybe for me it was just a lack of confidence. The whole bar scene has definitely not been me in terms of meeting "the one". *L* I've always had the "nice guy/best friend syndrome" It almost seems like your better off meeting others through friends, sports games, the beach or at the gym where you might workout. Hopefully your right Amy about things being different now. I would never change myself to suit a lady. I might bend over backwards for a lady that I dig but if its not mutual than I'm not going to waste my time or hers. Every girl should definitely learn what its like to ask a guy out at least once. At least to know what guys go through.
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Originally posted by mgdzkm433:
The way my Fiance got me (or how I got him  ) was because we both--after too many messed up relationships--finally acted like ourselves.
I had just been royally dumped by a total jerk who 'broke up with me' by bringing some chick to a night club (where we had planned to meet) and kissed her in front of me--like--kissed her while we were TALKING! Not just some random kiss that I happened to see--it was right in the middle of a conversation--and then he had the gull to INTRODUCE US. What an ass. Anyway--I was so tired of the night club scene and so ready to get away from those types of guys and the whole 'player' atmosphere. So I'm going to a Dave Matthew's concert, and this totally hot waiter (my fiance) waits on us. I leave him my number. He calls. We've been together ever since because we've never played those games. We NEVER went to night clubs or anywhere where you have the need to be social. We did things TOGETHER. Looking back--it's just so cool because we totally didn't play games. You know how when you first meet someone you want to impress them. Want to look nice, wear nice clothes. Our relationship never started out like that. We were totally honest with each other from the start. Our very first date we were talking religion--discussing it. Now how many first dates go that way? You're usually talking about your friends and your classes and what you like to do. We were deep with each other from the start and let each other know what we were all about. I've never been closer to anyone my entire life--and not only is he my 'lover' but he's my best friend too. That's the BEST part!
Just thought I would add a little 'advice' in there . . . sorry it was so long!
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