[wrigley]

Well said kappaloo and sugarandspice.

Keep in mind the following advertising slogan was used to promote a particular airline. An image of a female flight attendant with the caption of "Coffee, tea, or me?".This campaign came during an age of traditional values was an insult to women. The majority of the advertising firms are run by men,who have pushed the envelope time and time again. The use of sex, objectification of women, and the illusion use for titilation to sell has been used and spun to fit every decade. This was long before the second wave of feminism.

As for allowing the daughter to dress to express herself, I would take the AXOjen approach when she's in grade school, middle school.When she's in high school, the sugarandspice approach sounds like it would work.

Ideally, parents should lay the groundwork as to what is and is not acceptable to their kids to wear. I know certain fads passed me by because my parents said no. Consumers speak volumes when they choose not to spend their money.