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On rushing again:
I think that before you go through rush a second time, you need to stop and look at your FR experience.
There have been years on my campus where FR just didn't work the way it was supposed to: many bidless PNM's, many chapters below quota (usually it involves chapters' return rates varying drastically from their three-year average that was used to compute the number of invitations they can extend, but this could be a whole separate thread). This can be a cue that you should try again for COB or FR.
Or maybe you got a lot of invites in the early rounds, and were able to decline a lot of them, only to be cut in later rounds. Is it possible that one of those houses you cut earlier may have been a better fit? Are you willing to seriously look at houses that you did not return to after one or two rounds based on YOUR choices? Again, a good reason to COB or try FR again.
Or maybe you had something that you KNOW was working against you, like lousy grades, or no recs at a school that emphasizes them. If you know of a concrete reason that put you at a disadvantage, and you have since eliminated it, go again.
On the other hand, you were an obnoxious PNM, or you trash-talked chapters, or you skipped parties to which you were invited. Well, here it gets trickier...People change, and an incoming freshman can learn a lot in her first year, but there is really no reason a sorority should give you the benefit of the doubt. The burden of proof lies with you, and you will not be able to change anyone's mind in one week, so you are wasting your time unless you have gotten to know sorority women on campus and they can really vouch for your character.
I'm the first to remind PNM's that you can be cut for VERY stupid reasons (such as name mix-ups) but what are the odds of that happening at every single chapter?
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