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Originally posted by adpiucf
* Getting too close. It's fine to be friendly, but you can't be their friends. As an adviser you must keep it professional and you must always remember that you are there to serve as a role model. Even if you were the poster child for misbehavior as a collegian, you must not egg the current collegians on with stories of your wild youth or "back before it was considered hazing, we did abc...."*
You're not there to lead the chapter. You are there to advise the officers. Don't do the job for them. You can plant ideas, but let the officers run with them, and if you conceive it cleverly enough, plant the seed so the officers come up with the idea "on their own" with your encouragment.
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The two hardest things to deal with in my opinion.
It's not unlike becoming a manager for the first time. You're not "one of the guys" anymore.
To add one thought, if you are advising your old chapter, don't compare new officers and other things to the "way they were when you were there." Things change. Sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. But the do change, and nothing is more annoying for current undergraduates (what we call the collegians) than being compared to the past -- kind of like dealing with your parents when they said, "When I was your age..."