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Re: People who rush over and over and over again--don't they eventually get the hint?
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I hate to hear statements like this because I know a wonderful girl who rushed formally three times, COB'd at two houses and interviewed for a new colony before finding her home.
Freshman year she really didn't know much about rush. (This was pre-Internet people!) She didn't have anyone write recs for her. Her brother's girlfriend told her that she was perfect and wouldn't have to worry one bit about getting her choice of houses. She was also told that as an ABC legacy, she would definitely be at the top of their list. Didn't happen. She did well with most of her top choices until being cut from all but one before pref - the one house where she just did not feel comfortable.
Later that fall, she interviewed for a new colony but was not invited even to their pref party. That spring she was asked to COB with two sororities - again no invites to pref.
Sophomore year she rushed again thinking she would have a better chance now that she had friends in some of the sororities. Unfortunately, although she was at the top of her class in high school, her freshman year grades hurt her going through rush again. This year she was cut from ALL houses right before pref.
In the middle of that year she ended up transferring to another school because her first school did not have the program she wanted and she wanted to closer to home as well. That's when I first met her and thought she was great. I was astounded that she was not already in a sorority because I thought she was definitely Greek material. She fit right in with my close group of friends which included girls from the top houses on campus.
I brought it up with her to see if she was going to rush in the fall and that's when she told me all of her crazy history with rush. Against much protest I convinced her to go through again. This time she had her grades up and had secured multiple recs for almost all houses. Although she didn't get her top choices - groups that take almost exclusively freshman - she did end up in a group that she fell in love with on the very first round of parties.
She was a huge asset to her sorority and they even begged her to stay longer and delay graduation so that she could hold office. I think it is a tragedy that she would have been deprived of this experience and that the girls in that chapter would not have been able to know her if she had just "got the hint."