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Originally posted by valkyrie
I don't think I ever have, just because if you say it and the other person doesn't, it sets up a really weird dynamic in the relationship -- wasn't that a Seinfeld episode once?
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My sophomore year English teacher, who was a little bit crazy and also hilarious, used to give us life lessons that were related to the books we were reading. My favorite life lesson was on how to dodge a kiss at the end of the date if you didn't like the guy -- but he also had a very good life lesson on "the L word." He told us, "If somebody ever says this to you, no matter how you feel about them, just say it back. IT'S NOT WORTH THE PROBLEMS THAT IT CAUSES TO TELL THEM YOU DON'T FEEL THE SAME WAY."
I think I internalized that. Fortunately I've never been in a situation where I felt forced to say it when it wasn't true, but if I was, I think I'd lie.
As for this situation -- it's true that everybody says it at their own pace, and although a year is a long time to go without saying it, you're right in that the important part is that he's "working on it," so to speak. I wouldn't stress out too much.