well - weddings are expensive - honestly - i wonder why she didnt invite you guys for the church ceremony and for you to come after the food if she is worried about costs of food. I had some mexican friends that did that - they understood that they want to invite family and close friends cuz they are poor and dont have enough food adn many people showed up after the food for the dancing part and everyone was happy.
But on the other hand- I went to a traditional mexican wedding ( a different one) I was maid of honor but I almost fell asleep it was soooo long 2 hours and ON a sunday - i was like come on...... lol hurry up lol. by the way she married a gringo (white guy) and his family was clueless by some of the stuff they did (traditional mexican things) and i could see a big question mark above their heads. Sometimes its hard cuz of culture clash. I am worried whenever I date someone from a big family cuz i wont be able to invite EVERYONE. Maybe its not your cousin - it could be the guy speaking through her ya know??? `