I too am a believer that you will end up where you should be. I went through recruitment as a sophomore, so I knew all the stories and all the reputations of the 11 houses on my campus. I went in with my heart set on ABC, and wanted nothing to do with ADPi (it seems crazy for me to say that now). ADPi was the last house I went to on the first day, and it made me feel good that the girls were still so excited to meet me after a VERY logn day and 10 other parties full of 60+ PNMs. I was broken hearted when I got cut from ABC, but I still had ADPi, and as much as I didn't want to admit it at the time, I felt very at home there. I had one member who made sure to talk to me every day, and she really made me see that I should give it a try. I knew that if I didn't, I would always wonder. By that time I had decided that being GREEK was more important to me than anything. I pledged, and it took no time at all for me to realize that it really was where I belonged. I love ADPi and I have my sorority to thank for so much- including the best friends I could ever have.
There is alot that we don't think about when we go through recruitment. I do think that girls will end up where they are meant to be, even if that may not be their first choice.
I tell people that I may not have ended up where I thought I would, but I am exactly where I am supposed to be.
