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gatorgirl04
you say that your uf sorority friend has encouraged you to rush. i don't think she would do that if she didn't think that you stood a chance of getting a bid. she wouldn't want you to get hurt. your friend is a wonderful resource for you and can really give you an edge if you will take advantage of her.ask her to "play" rush with you. make arrangements to go over to her house and stand out side, pretending this is a sorority house you are standing outside of. have her come out like she would on the first day of recruitment and treat you like you are her rush guest and a total stranger. she can walk you through what it will be like at the ice water party, so that you get a feel for what sort of questions you might hear. if you do this it will probably help you feel more comfortable with "the unknown" and it will help her hone her recruitment skills. have her go through your wardrobe and make sure that your outfits are appropriate for each day of recruitment. if she has not already done so, have her describe each round of parties for you and the procedure pnm's go thru at uf each day. in the time you have before you leave for gainesville, make a concerted effort to strike up a conversation with people you do not know-while you are standing in line somewhere, with the sales clerk as you shop. it is excellent practice for recruitment. all of this is entirely appropriate and is not a recruitment violation. you are not asking her about her sorority, just recruitment in general. you admit you are shy. that's the first step-now you must try to overcome your shyness. you don't have to be the life of the party-just make an effort to carry on your end of the conversation. have a few topics ready to use if your rush hostess runs out of things to talk about. current movies, books, good clothing stores in gainesville, gator football, good restaurants in g-ville-you get the idea. your statement about getting into a sorority and just being the "girl no one notices" bothered me. that will only happen if you let it happen. if you go to your new member meetings, go to the activities, go over to the house for lunch and dinner and TALK to the sisters, there is no way you will go unnoticed, but it is totally up to you. i wish you the best of luck . let us know what happens. lisa
co-sign astroaphi-recommendations are a must. no excuses!!
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