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I also agree with what has been said. I felt the same way many times. I joined as a sophomore and never felt like I bonded with the chapter the same way that girls who pledged as a first year did. When I was feeling distant from the chapter (I never lived in the house or with ADPis) I would try to spend some time with one or two sisters I felt closer to. Maybe go out to dinner or to a social together. I loved my big, but she and I weren't a lot alike and didn't hang out all that much.
If you think the problem is mostly with you...I would suggest talking to your president or another exec officer you feel comfortable with. She will be able to help you find something to get involved with. Maybe she can make you chair or a committee or something. I always felt more connected when I was in a leadership position (I never held an exec office due to other commitments on campus).
If you think the problem is the same for many of the women in your chapter you shoudl consider talking to your president about this. We used to do a violets session. When we needed to clear the air (or right before recruitment). We would sit in a circle and pass an alphie (or whatever) and only the person with the lion could speak (we didn't go in a circle, just whoever wanted to speak did). They could say anything. About how they are feeling and why they are hurt. There were no advisors present. By the end of these things we were usually all in tears and everyone was hugging and feeling much closer. Its a great way to bond and if people have trouble speaking, you can always go around saying why you joined ADPi (this is what we did before recruitment to get spirits up). I know its a little cheesey, but it really is a great way to just get to know sisters on a deeper level.
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