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Originally posted by 33girl
It sucks to not be close with your big, but you're far from the only one this has happened to. Try and reverse the situation when you take your little sister. It's nice to have a special relationship with your big, but especially if you do random matches it doesn't always happen. If there are a lot of girls feeling the same way, I would bring up changing the method by which bigs get their littles.
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My big sister told me the reason she treated me so well was because she felt neglected by her big sister and was jealous of the relationship that her big had with her other little. If your big is ignoring you, put your energy into a younger girl or a new little! Set a positive example for her.
I'll admit, at one point this year I drifted from my first little. I was really hurt by how she had treated me with some school stuff and I withdrew from her as a result. But at the end of the year, I put a ton of effort into our relationship and fixed things. That friendship with her is priceless, I realized. Even if she's ignoring you, try to fix things before you lose that friendship completely.
As for the rest of the stuff, I agree with what everyone's said about having an open forum. You have some good ideas being thrown at you in this thread. But I can't emphasize enough that you'll never be happy unless you put an effort into fixing things. I sat back one semester and just let my anger fester and didn't do anything about it. But then I became Chaplain because I wanted to inspire the girls to be better sisters, and I thought the best way for me to do that was using the Ritual. I was so much happier when I started working to make things better.
It's frustrating to get passed up for leadership positions your first year. But quite honestly, not everyone can have a leadership position their freshman/first year. I started off as our Intramural Chair and slowly worked my way up. No position is insignificant, and it gives you great experience.