[KappaKittyCat]

I'd already purchased the shoes and put $100 down on the dress, which had been ordered (we were doing alterations when it happened). She's having my dress altered to fit the new MoH, and said that she'd pay for it. So she owes me $100, which I really need. She said she'd write me a check the week after the wedding because she "doesn't have any spare money right now." Okay. The reason I'm worried about not going to the wedding is that I'm afraid she might not give me the money she owes me if she winds up having to pay for us and we don't come.

The official reason for her firing me was that she felt that she and her wedding were not a priority to me. In reality, she'd been working with this other girl, who'd been serving as an amateur wedding coordinator, and was upset that I didn't start planning her shower three months in advance. (I was kind of busy graduating from college, moving, nearly being disowned, and looking for a job at the time.) So rather than talk to me when she was upset with me, she let it fester for several weeks, then called a tribal council of the rest of the bridal party and kicked me off the island.

I've realized that she doesn't really have friends; she just has people who can do things for her. She hung me out to dry. I told her that I was concerned about the implications that this had for our friendship, and she told me that I had no right to feel that way. I said that I felt hurt; she called me immature. "The only thing I'm sorry about," she said, "is having chosen you in the first place." As far as our friendship is concerned, unless she apologizes for going behind my back instead of talking to me when she had issues, I really don't think I'm going to be able to trust her again. So there's that.