I would say that anyone joining an organization would change in some way. With me being in APO, I changed in the fact that I have more respect for myself and I look after my organization. I became more mature by joining APO. As for friends that I have that joined a Black greek organization, I saw I huge change in all of them. I know atleast two that joined Alpha Kappa Alpha and thought that the world moved around them. Not to say that all members are like that, but these girls just felt like they were "it". Some people go through their process in different ways, but I can't seem to understand how once you become a member, some people feel that others are underneath them?
Some people at my school look at me when I wear my letter shirt and say "you are not this or that" and I just stare at them and say...."we are all founded on the same principles, so why are you any different than I am" I went through a process, even though it "may" have been in a different light, but from what I was told, when you "pledge" you are taking that organization into your heart and learning all of the principles of that organization. Isn't that what all greek-letter organizations do?
Sorry if this is of subject
Oh yeah...those girls I was talking about...they are ex-friends now! I didn't need someone asking me to help them out with this and that, and calling me up and chit chatting, and then act like I didn't graduate with them from high school and like we didn't used to have parties together or anything like that after they became greek.