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Been married six years, no kids yet.
He just got a promotion/raise, and I get one next year. He also graduates from grad school next May. So next summer we're looking at moving, and once I get a house house (as opposed to a two-bedroom townhouse), it's Go Time. Assuming things go well relatively quickly, I'd be around 33 when I have my first kid.
I'm also a teacher, and next year September is when I'll get tenure. You can take off a year for pregnancy/childrearing if you have tenure, but it's harder to do if you don't.
I know people who wanted to start a family right away, and more that want to get financially and academically and geographically settled. I actually did the math to see what kind of house we could afford with $500 specifically set aside for child care expenses-- that's financially stable and settled to me-- but my husband's cousin who had just started grad school decided to go off the pill to see what the Lord's will was. The Lord gave them a baby pretty darn quick! So now they're generally okay but struggling to try to have child care and money for her to finish her degree to become a school librarian.
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