I'm holding my tongue (keyboard?) too, Dewgirl!
No one execept initiated members and candidates for membership are allowed to be at the initiations for my sorority or my service fraternity. The only way a mother would be allowed to be there would be if she is an initiated member. We do have a parents' tea similar to what OohTeenyWahine described.
Are you certain that it is the actual initiation that mothers can attend? Some sororities also have a mother patroness ceremony where mothers and other mother-ly people who have assisted the sorority are recognized.
And also, congrats!!!
