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It depends why she "just doesn't like it." Is it because she feels she has nothing in common with the sisters, or because it isn't the most popular house? There are women - and we've seen some on GC - who go into rush liking the top 1-3 houses - thinking that they DESERVE to be in those houses - and if they get cut from those don't want to go on. It has NOTHING to do with how she related to the women in the chapter or how she feels about the sorority's values or mission - it has to do with "oh boo hoo, I was top of the heap in high school and OBVIOUSLY I should be there now as well." Sorry, but don't expect me to cry any tears for this sort of thinking.
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Word, word, word. These are 17-year-old girls we're talking about. Maybe in some cases she's been left with a jock house and she's a bookworm, and she and the sisters just had nothing to talk about. But what happens a lot is that a PNM is left with the ABCs, and the ABCs are just losers in her eyes. They're fat or they wear acid wash or their panty lines show and she wasn't friends with girls like that in high school. It's not that she doesn't want them as sisters -- it's that she doesn't want to be seen with them. That kind of shallow, judgmental dynamic is inevitable wherever people are forming themselves into social groups, but a major benefit of a formal system with experienced guides is that the guides can encourage the newbies not to get sucked into that way of thinking.