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Originally posted by aephi alum
It might be worthwhile pointing out to the group that they can still be friends even if they join different fraternities. They've been involved in different activities, sports teams, etc. and remained friends; why can't they remain friends if they're in different fraternities?
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i agree, during this pre-rush set down with them, they have to discuss their options and plan for what happens if one of them doesn't get a bid. right now it sounds like they'd be more interested in being independent rather than divided, but if a couple guys really like the chapter, it might make it difficult to say no. It sounds as if these guys have made it through a lot of potentially-dividing times...if they don't join the same org., i bet they'd still be as tight if they handled it right and didn't let jealousy get in the way.
That said, i think that they should present a united front WITHOUT saying that they "have" to join the same org. How about recs? if all guys get a rec from a brother who can appreciate their loyalty and devotion to one another, then that should be positive.
remind them too that they need to show the brothers that they aren't going to turn out to be another clique in the house, that they can branch out of their comfort zones and contribute to the chapter not only as a group of friends but individuals.