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Going into rush as a "package deal" could backfire. Say the group visits a fraternity chapter and makes it clear that it's all or nothing. The brothers love four of the five guys and think they'd make great brothers, but don't feel that the fifth is a good fit. Knowing the group is a package deal, the chapter could potentially turn around and not offer bids to any of them.
On the flip side, the fraternity might bid the fifth guy primarily to get the other four to sign. All five sign, but a few weeks into the pledge process, the fifth guy realizes that he's really not happy in that fraternity and would have fit in better somewhere else. Now he faces the difficult decision of whether to depledge and rush elsewhere, or stick it out. And maybe he's resentful.
It might be worthwhile pointing out to the group that they can still be friends even if they join different fraternities. They've been involved in different activities, sports teams, etc. and remained friends; why can't they remain friends if they're in different fraternities?
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