[honeychile]

One way to look at it is this: haven't you ever seen a couple pairs of pants (shoes, etc), and thought, WOW! I really like this pair, but this other pair is pretty cool, too. Then you look at the fit, and the first pair just doesn't fit the way you imagined. So, you try on the other pair, and it fits.

Also, the New Member program is "trying on" the sorority - the NM can go through the entire program, but decide against initiation. We had a NM cancel literally the day before initiation, and the next year, she pledged and was initiated into another sorority - where she was quite happy. It happens.

"Number Two" isn't always the worst thing that could happen!