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I dated a non-greek all of college. It was very hard; however, we were together before I joined (I joined my sophomore year). He was however, not very social, and even with non greeks could come to parties and stuff he wouldn't go, which would leave me going alone. This ultimately became a big deal and was probably just another aspect of our breakup, he just didn't understand the social aspect.
Now my lil sis, who I love to death, is engaged to a non-greek. He is awesome. He does; however, not go to our school. They do visit each other very regularly and when he is in town, he comes out to stuff even though he is non-greek. This way he understands both the sisterhood/ritual aspect along with social. Even when he doesn't visit, normally my lil will get a call from him, which then normally means the phone gets past around to everyone so they can say "hi" since everyone knows him from when he does visit and come out.
It may be different when you're a collegian versus alum. I just graduated; however, I am already signed up to advise where I'm going to grad school, so my commitment is still there.
Who knows, it all about the person and the understanding.
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