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About 10 years ago I "broke up" with a friend that I'd had since junior high. She asked to me by her maid of honor even though we hadn't spoken much after I moved away to college. It was actually pretty uncomfortable time for me because in the meantime she had become a born-again Christian (I don't support their message), was marrying a materialistic jerk (they took pics before the ceremony and he didn't bother to acknowledge her when she appeared in her wedding dress), was completely immersed in Amway (shuddering just thinking about that company) and really didn't try to find some commonality when I kept on bringing up subjects we might talk about. THEN she didn't talk to me for 7 months and when she finally did it was basically Amway propoganda. I wrote back a letter basically saying that I didn't like her church, her husband, Amway and didn't really see any reason to continue the friendship since we struggled to find anything to talk about. I've never spoken to her since, although I wonder at times what's become of her.
My suggestion is to tell her what's going on, I think your mutual friends would respect you more for being straight up with her than to drag on the drama and not let her know why. Most people understand that not everyone agrees with substance abuse. Maybe losing friends will be her wakeup call (doubtful,but who knows...).
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