I agree that a person may love certain qualities in "John" and others in "Joe", but wouldn't it be possible for "Mary", under similar circumstances, to fall in love with "John" as she already has with "Joe"? I believe falling in love is something that just happens (sometimes we aren't even aware that our feelings are actually "going there")...but because it's not a conscious decision we make...i.e. "Hey! I think I'll fall in love with______ today."....it can happen without us realizing it. And, since we can't very well turn our feelings on and off like a light switch, "Mary" could have been in love with "John" for, let's say, a couple of years...and here comes "Joe" she falls in love with him. Of course this wouldn't make her automatically fall out of love with "John"....thus, she'd be in love with two men. I hope this made sense...I don't know if I worded it the exact way I had it in mind.
[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 14, 2000).]
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